In his book The Accountable Man, Tom Eisenman urges Christian men to find a friend they can be accountable to. Because of our fallen nature, we all rationalize our sins and deceive ourselves. But Eisenman maintains that having an accountability relationship helps keep us on the path of righteousness and spiritual renewal. “Strength for fighting the good fight … comes from learning to stand arm in arm and heart to heart with other men,” he says.
To that end, Eisenman gives suggestions for finding the right person and describes how a good accountability relationship should work. He explains the interpersonal skills involved, such as listening, praying, and confronting with brotherly love. Also, he provides an appendix of sample questions that partners can ask each other.
Eisenman is a pastor and it shows in his writing. His ultimate focus is on what God—not each man—accomplishes in accountability relationships. Applying the right Scripture at the right time, he makes his point without being “preachy.” He also draws on his pastoral experience to give examples of accountability groups.
Although Eisenman has an abundance of good things to say, it can be easy to miss them. His one-liner gems are buried deep within long, thick paragraphs. There are no bullets, side boxes or checklists to break up the text. Visually, the book isn’t very reader friendly, and that, unfortunately, hinders his valuable message.
Another shortcoming is the fictional account of two accountability partners. The first pages of the book narrate how Bill and Larry begin an accountability relationship. In the following episodes, they grow closer to each other and to God by holding each other accountable for their thoughts and actions. Each scene sets the stage for the chapter’s topic. However, the correlation is too fitting and the dialogue is too artificial to make the Bill and Larry sections believable.
Cosmetic flaws aside, The Accountable Man is definitely worth reading. A 60-year-old or a 16-year-old could benefit from Eisenman’s spiritual insight on man-to-man relationships and being accountable to one another before God. -- Frederick "Fritz" Nuffer, Christian Book Previews.com
Good men--husbands, fathers, church leaders, pastors--sometimes make bad choices.
And for far too many men, bad choices have led to the crumbling of marriages and ministries.
Tom Eisenman knows it doesn't have to be this way. He also knows that in order for men to develop authenticity, vulnerability, honesty, trust--the character traits of spiritual maturity--they must cultivate healthy relationships with their brothers on the journey.
In The Accountable Man, Eisenman shows men how to build friendships of camaraderie and relational depth. He casts a compelling vision of interdependence and spiritual vitality--a vision in which no man stands alone against the temptations of our twenty-first century.
Perfect for use in men's groups, small groups or one-to-one accountability reationships, this helpful, hopeful book includes lists of straight-to-the-point questions that will help men challenge one another to spiritual maturity and integrity.