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Trade Paperback
224 pages
Jan 2004
W Publishing Group

Big Girls Don't Whine: Getting On With the Great Life God Intends

by Jan Silvious

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“In Big Girls Don't Whine, author Jan Silvious addresses the issue of women making the transition from being little girls to becoming mature women. Though seemingly grown up, females many times have not put their childish ways behind them. Silvious insists that in order to become ‘a big girl,’ each female must evaluate her life and discover areas wherein she is still reverting to little girl behaviors.

“Silvious first takes her female reader on a self-evaluation journey that forces her to discover areas in her life in which she may be resorting to childish behaviors such as acting helpless, whining, pouting, and manipulating. Silvious shows how such negative behaviors damage a variety of relationships, and why they should be replaced with wisdom and maturity. Her lessons are based on her years as a professional counselor, public speaker with Women of Faith, and author of such previous books as Foolproofing Your Life.

“Silvious explains to women, ‘God always wants the best for you, always calls you to a higher place, always makes a way for you to become the woman He has in mind.’ She presents everyday incidents from home, work, church, and community that show how women who are mature have a better testimony and a better life of service than do women who never rise to their full feminine potential. Her tone is one of encouragement rather than admonishment. She helps her readers evaluate their thoughts and actions so they can make positive adjustments. Sometimes Silvious will drift off-topic and follow tangent ideas for awhile, but overall the book is solid. It is a healthy reality check for any female wanting to become a mature woman of God.” -- Laura Olson, Christian Book

Book Jacket:

Known as the female Dr. Phil, Jan Silvious calls women to leave “little girl ways” behind and become the strong, mature, confident individuals God intends us to be!

No one wants to be labeled a whiner, but many of us go through life with a “poor me,” victim mentality that sounds a whole lot like whining. God never intended for us to act like “little girls,” says Jan Silvious. His goal is for each of us to live as “big girls”—mature Christian women—who are capable of enjoying the richness of life He has planned.

In Big Girls Don’t Whine, Jan helps women:

Move beyond the past and on to healthy relationships,

Choose to be proactive rather than let life just “happen,”

Discover their full potential,

And become everything He made them to be.

So how can we tell if we’re living life as an immature ‘little girl” or a confident “big girl?”

A little girl…

Is insecure
Becomes the victim of circumstances
Says “I can’t”

A big girl…

Is secure
Rests in God’s sovereignty
Says, “I can”

In Big Girls Don’t Whine, Jan Silvious calls us to be real women in a real world, free to experience a life of full of potential and vision. This book is the how-to manual for making it happen.