Tyndale House Publishers
Effective Parenting in a Defective World, written by Chip Ingram, is a book that offers hope and help for the imperfect parent with imperfect children. “Raising children is a learning process, and no parent is going to get it all right,” Ingram warns. “One can, however, glean some powerful and timeless principles form God’s Word to help equip children for the world they live in.”
Ingram discusses rearing positive kids in a negative world, modeling right living and priorities, building strong bonds with one’s children, teaching the importance of obedience, using discipline lovingly and effectively, persevering through mistakes and tough times, and passing on five key life lessons to help children thrive in today’s culture.
Ingram draws insights from personal experience, pastoral counseling, psychological research, and Bible study. He says of his book, “This is not a theory or pie-in-the-sky speculation of a never-had-a-problem pastor and his wife.” With complete honesty and openness, Ingram shares his perspectives, offering solid answers to any parent who has questions. Each chapter is a discussion of practical and helpful material followed by a section that asks the reader to put into action what has been discussed.
Throughout the book, Ingram examines several parenting myths along with the opposing realities. For example, one parenting myth is, “Your goal is to make your kids happy.” In contrast to the myth, the parenting reality is, “Your goal is to make your kids holy, set apart for God.”
Helping parents help children is the goal of the book. The number one lesson that children must learn is obedience. This doesn’t mean it is easy being a parent. “Parenting is not neat, it’s not clean, plans don’t always work out, and constant revisions have to be made,” explains Ingram. For help with those revisions, the reader is invited to join the discussion and “learn from God’s Word how to be an effective parent in a defective world.”
In the process of learning and growing together, “parents and children need to know at the very core of their hearts that failure is never final with Christ.” Parents fail children, children fail parents, and all will fail God. Those failures are not the end, because God’s grace is available. There are some great outlines from Ingram’s studies, many good lists, including five characteristics of biblical discipline (p. 93).
Effective Parenting in a Defective World would benefit any parent who wants to increase in parenting skills. It could easily be used as a small group study or within a single family. Ingram’s style is refreshing, insightful, and filled with hope for the imperfect parent. – Richard A. Borgman, Christian Book Previews.com
I just want my kids to be happy and successful.
Our kids are growing up in a culture that promises them fulfillment in a dizzying number of ways. There are so many opportunities—and so many dangers—that confront our kids every day. Some may look pretty good to you—school, sports, music lessons. Others, like the latest dangerous thrill-seeking fad, may keep you up at night.
So what are you to do? Sign your kids up for every activity and hope something sticks? Anxiously guard them from the dangers outside your door? How can a parent make the right choice? How do you raise effective kids in a defective world?
As a pastor and father of four, Chip Ingram delivers a much more positive solution. Without shying away from tough topics like discipline and teen rebellion, Chip offers thought-provoking principles and specific exercises to help you understand how to develop your child’s full potential. This “hands on” approach to parenting gives special hope to blended families and those in crisis. You’ll learn how you can draw closer to your kids even as the world tries to pull you apart. You’ll also learn proven methods to teach your kids critical values like responsibility and perseverance that will help them rise above the norm.
Along the way, you’ll discover biblical principles and practical advice that can help you raise kids who stand out from the crowd.