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Trade Paperback
224 pages
Sep 2003
WaterBrook Press

How to Find Selfless Joy in a Me-First World

by Leslie Vernick

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"When you scan the shelves at the bookstore, even Christian stores, it’s easy to see our obsession with self-help books. The church today has embraced many secular psychology concepts all in the name of becoming happy and healthy individuals. We think to be happy as Christians we should love ourselves, establish boundries, and find our inner child.

"But how does this fit with Biblical principles? That’s where Leslie Vernick takes the reader in How to Find Selfless Joy in a Me-First World. She asserts that the path to lasting happiness is paved with humility, selflessness, and self-denial, rather than self-awareness, self-esteem, or self-fulfillment. To experience true inner peace, one must cultivate a deeper relationship with God, not pursue self-improvement.

"Vernick supplies many Scriptures to support her material, and gently challenges the reader to rethink some cultural ideologies that the church has adopted as its own. An example of taking a norm to task is her treatment of self-reliance: “A self-sufficient person is typically seen as a competent and emotionally healthy individual. After all, no one likes to be needy…When we believe that we are self-sufficient, our heart automatically and unconsciously grows proud, and we forget God. He warned Israel, “…Be careful that you do not forget the Lord your God…(Deuteronomy 8:10-14).”

"Chapters include The Happiness Paradox, Humility’s Imposters, Growing in Selflessness, and The Secret to Great Relationships. Vernick’s insightful, Biblically-sound warnings are not difficult to follow, and are extremely timely in our generation of self-absorption, causing this reviewer to shout, 'Finally!' I highly recommend this book to anyone who is drawn to self-help books, and to those who counsel others." -- Stacy Oliver, Christian Book Previews

Book Jacket:

Do You Need Greater Self-Esteem–Or Something Else Entirely?

Western culture increasingly emphasizes the importance of self-love and self-esteem. Many of us believe we must “find” ourselves–and feel good about what we see–before we can experience significant spiritual growth. Focusing so much on ourselves, however, distracts us from pursuing the only source of true fulfillment. Do we, as God’s people, really need to love ourselves more? Or is there a wiser, biblical path that can lead us to joy that is not self-centered and fleeting, but God-focused and lasting?

Challenging the current fascination with self esteem, Leslie Vernick answers these questions and others that trip up Christians today. Offering surprising insights and practical helps that can make a real difference in your life, she shows how you can experience greater personal, relational, and spiritual growth while humbly adoring and glorifying your God.