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Trade Paperback
215 pages
Apr 2004
WaterBrook Press

Generation EX: Adult Children of Divorce and the Healing of Our Pain

by Jen Abbas

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“Twenty years after their parents divorce, children expect to reach some level of closure and inner peace. They expect to grow out of long-felt sensations of pain and neglect. They discover, however, that the emotional damage done to them is far worse than they imagined. In Generation EX, researcher and author Jen Abbas examines this touchy and often overlooked subject.

“Drawing on her personal experience, as well as mounds of documentation, Abbas proves that childhood trauma caused by parental divorce will resurface when an adult child of divorce attempts to have a serious relationship, get married, and start a family. This is because the divorce-damaged psyche of such adults blocks them from having a ‘sense of family.’ Abbas uses herself as one of the prime examples.

“The content of this book teaches the reader how to find peace, how to redefine family relationships, and how to trust other people. All this begins by first developing a loving relationship with God and, thereby, strengthening one's religious faith. At the end of each chapter there are questions for reflection, a verse from the Bible, a life challenge, and recommendations for other helpful reading. Analogies and example situations add depth and understanding to each new step.

“This book is honest in admitting that some people may never find complete closure on this issue, but with God there is great healing of pain. This is serious reading, with difficult issues and questions to face. But it also is a book that provides an opportunity for conflict resolution through the discovery that each Christian is a beloved child of God. It should be noted that parents who read this book will come away with a new and impacting understanding of the influence they have upon their children.” -- Laura Johnson, Christian Book

Book Jacket:

Finally, a Book for Adult Children of Divorce–
Written by an Adult Child of Divorce.

One of the hardest truths about divorce is that every split–no matter when it occurs–will have lifelong effects on the children caught in the crossfire. While most people acknowledge our pain during our parents’ parting, few of us realize that our most significant insecurities, questions, and doubts may not show up for years, when we seek our own intimate relationships as adults.

In fact, millions of adult children of divorce feel lost, displaced, or unwanted years after the ink has dried on their parents’ divorce decree. Like them, you may fear abandonment, betrayal, or failure in your own marriage. Despite outward successes, you may doubt your emotional abilities. You may notice that your parents’ divorce affects you more each year, not less. You are not alone.

Through research, interviews, and personal stories, Generation Ex will help you understand the effect of your parents’ divorce on your identity, faith, and relationships, and will give you the tools you need to create a dramatically different legacy.