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304 pages
Jan 2001
Integrity Publishers

Cracking the Communication Code: The Secret to Speaking Your Mate's Language

by Emerson Eggerichs

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Cracking the Communication Code zeroes in on the idea that God created men and women to be decidedly different from each other, which means that most husbands and wives find that they can have difficulty communicating with mutual understanding. This also can lead to barriers and hurt feelings. The code that people have to understand is that a husband needs to talk to his wife in a way that she feels loved, and a wife needs to talk to her husband in a way that he feels respected. The oneness that God intended for marriage is increased by doing this.

Dr. Eggerichs spends quite a bit of time reviewing the main principles from his first book, Love and Respect. I think this review is good, since not many of us who have read Love and Respect have completely mastered its principles.

Fortunately, the author doesn’t stop there, but gives a number of scripturally-based suggestions for ways to communicate, which any believer can put into practice with God’s help. Coupled with this are many pertinent anecdotes from his own life and the lives of some who have attended his seminars.

The foundational principle given is that we are to do everything as unto the Lord. This includes the way we speak to others. Dr. Eggerichs puts handles on Jesus’ model of forgiveness and His way of speaking, giving the husband and wife very practical tools to use when they talk with each other. All of this provides the key to good communication, which is mutual understanding.

The only book above criticism is the Bible. So, it is no surprise that I found at least three places where the author used Scripture to prove text. However, these would not lead the reader to any erroneous conclusions. Therefore, I can unreservedly recommend

Cracking the Communication Code as an excellent resource for any husband and/or wife who have the desire to improve their marriage to the glory of God. – Nancy Wells, Christian Book

Book Jacket:

Communication between couples has been dissected in thousands of books and articles, so why does it remain the number one marriage problem? "Because," says Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, "most spouses don't know that they speak two different languages. They are sending each other messages in 'code,' but they won't crack that code until they see that she listens to hear the language of love and he listens to hear the language of respect." Dr. Eggerichs' best-selling book, Love and Respect, launched a revolution in how couples relate to each other based on Ephesians 5:33: "The husband must love his wife . . . and the wife must respect her husband." In Cracking the Communication Code he shows couples how to speak each other's distinctly different language-respect for him, love for her. The result is mutual understanding and a successful, godly marriage.